Tuesday, June 1, 2010

A Good Friend; Kenzoku

After what happend today,
i needed to remind myself about what makes a good friend
So that i will become a good friend to my friends.
A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life,
but they do try to be clear about their intentions.
This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations.
When something doesn't seem right, they let you know

A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place.
But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it:
Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party,
others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation.
Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.

A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are
they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset.
If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you,
they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.

A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you?
Do they know what you want most out of life?
A really good friend will know what makes you tick
and help you become the person you want to be.
They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.

A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality.
They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation.
They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best
to stick up for you when you're in trouble.

A good friend makes it clear that they care about you
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you.
One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you.
A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general,
know what's going on in your life and act interested about it..

A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend.
A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop,
when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced.
If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.

A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal.
A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow
and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.

They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them.
In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated,
even when you aren't at your best.

Taken from : http://teenadvice.about.com/od/friends/tp/qualities_of_good_friends.htm

4 comments:

julia.h said...

dear siz.. hang in tough ya.. sometimes, its not the friendship nor the people tat makes the problem in friendship.. its the situations and our misunderstood to judge them. please dun makes any moves that might hurt yourself and the friendship.. i believes, when the smokes clears u'll see the better picture.
i dun want to be a friend, just a sister who always cares ;)
xoxo

SiZ said...

thank you kak julie for being nice to me...i will stop hurting myself..and the friendship..sometimes..i tend to make mistakes again and again..i am very weak...thank u so much

Nina said...

Jie is right. I've had my share in this story too. People change, make mistakes, leaves a big footprint in your life. Though we might hang tough to the relationship, they might have just abandoned you. That's how i lost my best friend of 14 years. Non of that matters now, if they stay clear away from you when you desperately want to stitch a wet thread. Even if it is not your fault. Be yourself, it's not the end of the world. You have others who value your friendship more. Be thankful that you have a good and supporting husband and lovely cats. Pray for a baby more. Babies makes mothers truly happy. :D Take care babe and dont run over a cop or be under a lorry k. Get Ali to drive you to work more until your head is cleared.

SiZ said...

thank you so much to my lovely sister from CBN...i am trying my best to have a clear mind...as for today..i have taken 4 xanaxs, and it is really bad..depression.is a part of me since i am 21 years old..seing a shrink is so costly..but the meds help me at times...i am so sad after whan happened between me and her..but then she said she does not want to have anything to do with me...i have to respect her wishes..i just hope that is she is okie..being alone at home and all....thank u again..

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